My name is F. Ted Atchley, III. I write computer code by day and fiction stories (novels, short stories, fan fiction, flash fiction) by night. Currently, I’m published in three (soon to be four) short story collections. You can see My Books here.
On my blog I talk about being a Better Man, Better Husband, Better Father and a Better Writer. In addition, I post reviews of books I’m reading along with occasional off-topic posts on blogging, religion or politics. I tend to post once or twice a week.
Ted the Third
I chose the name Ted the Third for my online presence. I come from a very close knit family. During my formative years, I had four generations of my family (up to my Great Grand Parents) living within a 20 mile radius. We would get together, at least once a week, and sometimes more often than that.
The men in my family are not horribly original in naming their boys, so I wound up being F. Ted Atchley, III. At family gatherings, if someone yelled for Ted, three heads would turn (me, my dad and my grandfather). People started calling us Ted Senior for my grandfather, Ted Junior for my dad, and I became Ted the Third.
The F. stands for Fielding which is usually a last name. I often jest that I have two last names rather than two first names. Two first names being the rule rather than the exception in the deep south. I use F. Ted Atchley because I think it looks a little like F. Scott Fitzgerald.
Better Man, Better Husband, Better Father
I’m still a long ways from publishing a full length novel, but I wanted to start blogging, and I was faced with the question of what to blog about. My greatest passion in life is my faith and my family, and that is what I decided to blog about.
This post explains how my own personal journey led me to want to write about being a dad and a husband. Why a Dad blog?
One of the first things I learned was that I had the relationship between the three roles all confused. Here’s the post where I got straightened out. Better Man, a Better Husband, and a Better Father.
Better Man posts what I’m learning to become a better person, a better man. Usually, but not always, these posts touch on my faith. Nearly all of these posts come from lessons I’ve been taught by my friend Paul Rienzo. He’s an outstanding teacher. You can visit his podcasts here. They come with my highest recommendation.
Better Husband posts talk about lessons I’ve learned through eighteen years of marriage to my incredible wife. We have a wonderful, and generally happy marriage. In these posts, I share the lessons I’ve learned that have made it that way.
I’m the dad of a thirteen year old daughter and a three year old son. I try to be the best dad I can be. In these posts, I share the struggles, the victories, and lessons I’ve learned and keep learning as our family heads into these dynamic years ahead.
As I mentioned in the open, by night I write novels, short stories, flash fiction, fan fiction. I’m learning as I go (nothing like a little OJT!) and occasionally share something I’ve learned on the blog.
As an unpublished writer, part of my training is reading inside and outside of my genres. After I read a book, I like to post a review of it here on the blog.
Sometimes I will read or hear something that will light a spark in me and I use the blog to comment on the situation. These posts often hit on religion and politics and other taboo topics. I know I’m not supposed to ‘go there’ as it may alienate potential readers. You don’t have to agree with my religion or politics to like my stories. I welcome opposing viewpoints and try to learn from each person (as long as they follow my Comment policy – see below). I like to think that outside a few, bedrock beliefs that I have a fairly open mind on most topics.
I’ll also use Off-topic to post on blogging in general. Nothing like a blogger blogging about blogging! Its recursive to the third power!
I allow people to comment on my blog, and I strongly believe in building a community of people who discuss posts. You can disagree with me, and other commenters. I’m always learning, and I’m always ready to hear another viewpoint. I don’t need to be the smartest guy in the room.
Do not voice your disagreement with obscenities and foul language. Do not voice your disagreement in personal attacks.
I will delete comments that are insulting or full of profanity.
I will not delete a comment just because I don’t agree with you.
You are not required to use your real name to comment. You don’t even need an account. I use LiveFyre which will allow you post using an account from one of the many social media services like Twitter, Facebook or Google+. You can also comment simply by leaving a name and email.
If a spam comment gets through, I’ll do my best to delete as quickly as possible.